How to Keep Fear and Anxiety From Holding You Back

Sign that says FearI’ll readily admit I made a bold statement with the title of this article. The promise that I can help with anxiety & fear is no small claim. While I’m no psychologist or psychiatrist (nor do I play one on TV…ha ha) I do know a thing or two about fear, anxiety, and most importantly, how to get on the other side of letting it hold you back from living more fully in life.

At one point in my life I dealt with some pretty extreme anxiety — I know what fear feels like, and while I realize it’s often brought on by irrational thinking, in the moment one is experiencing it it feels like anything but that. I talk a lot more about the specifics on my battle with fear & anxiety in my book, but our purpose here isn’t to discuss the nitty gritty details of what I went through. Rather, it is to dissect the practical things I did, and to some extent, still do in the hopes that you can formulate your own plan for overcoming something similar. While you may not experience fear or anxiety to the same level I did, or others do, the skills I hope to share will still be useful for you.

Strategies for Overcoming Fear and Anxiety

1. Acknowledge that there are varying levels of anxiety. In some instances you might be able to work through things yourself, and in other instances you may need the help of a medical professional to walk through your challenges. If that’s the case, don’t beat yourself up over it, accept the help, and play an active role in whatever plan is formulated to help you.

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Leaders Create Other Leaders

There is one trait that all the top leaders share — regardless of the place they operate or work in. It’s their ability to cultivate and bring out the leadership qualities of those they work with.

Leaders understand the difference between creating followers, and other leaders. They know, sometimes instinctively, that if you want to build a truly great team you aren’t going to get there if there is only one boss and everyone else just waits around for the tasks to come down from the top. If other members of the team aren’t empowered, and given enough training and trusted with enough confidence to make decisions, there are going to be problems and ultimately the team’s ability to grow in a healthy manner is going to be stifled.

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Ideas are a dime a dozen. It’s your ability to execute that makes the difference

The world is filled with amazing ideas that have the ability to transform the lives of others, as well as those who came up with them, yet, in many cases never see the light of day. Ideas, whether we choose to accept it or not, are not rare. What is rare, are people’s willingness to take their great idea, develop a plan for accomplishing them, and ultimately executing on them to the point where they become a reality. Make no mistake, that’s the difference maker.

If you can become a person that executes effectively on your ideas, you will see tremendous opportunities flow into your life. Those with resources, and ideas seek out people with this skill set, and are willing to reward those who have it. If this isn’t something that comes easily to you I strongly encourage you to develop this characteristic.

How to become a “make things happen” person

The first step is to develop the habit of seeing things through. Instead of letting things run through your mind and never doing much beyond that, begin to act on your thoughts. If you feel you should exercise more. Do so. You don’t have to become a marathon runner overnight. Maybe it’s just a walk you go on, or some other form of light exercise.

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Live Your Life With Margin

Stones balancing outdoorsFor our purposes we’ll define margin as anything that’s left after all expenses or costs are deducted.

The natural inclination is to think of margin in strictly monetary terms, but I believe that’s too small a box to put it in. It should also apply to other areas of our life, such as — the way we manage our time, relationships, even our careers and professional lives, among other things.

Sadly, I don’t think most people take the importance of having margin in their lives seriously enough. The benefits are far reaching.

The key to living your life with ample margin really all comes down to the choices you and I make. It gets down to how intentional we are in the way we live our lives.

The Case for Margin

When you have extra left over, and you haven’t spent it all — in any area of your life you have a certain freedom that those without margin typically don’t have. I realize that some folks reading this aren’t going to agree with that. That said, I often find that those who don’t, are those who typically don’t have any margin in their own lives. To that, I’d suggest not knocking it till you try it 🙂

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Success Doesn’t Always Look Like You Think It’s Going to

It had finally happened. I was staring at a book sitting on the shelf of my local Barnes and Noble. Many times before I had seen a friend or colleagues book in that same spot and thought to myself, “one day that will be me.” This time, it was the book I’d written, It’s Your Life, LIVE BIG. I can’t really express the pride and joy I felt in that moment.

It was like the well over a decade’s effort I had put in had finally come to fruition. It wasn’t just one thing I did that got me to that point. It was a combination of years of writing, sharing, and building the community I had started many years before. Like most “big goals”, my wanting to become a “traditionally” published author grew overtime.

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