<p>If you can&#8217;t understand this one, you&#8217;re pretty stupid&#8230; See what I mean? Most of us know better than to call other people names and insult their intelligence.</p>
<p>Being assertive about our opinions and beliefs is fine, but at some point, assertiveness crosses over into bluntness. And that means you haven&#8217;t taken the other person&#8217;s feelings into account. </p>
<p>Find out if bluntness is a problem for you. To do that simply ask five of the people closest to you at home and at work something like: &#8220;Do I come across as too blunt sometimes?&#8221; &#8220;Do I say things that hurt other people&#8217;s feelings without realizing it?&#8221; If you get back some &#8220;yes&#8221; answers, then you need to pay attention to the ways you communicate.  <span class="post-teaser-more"><br /><br />&nbsp;=>> <a href="https://www.getmotivation.com/motivationblog/2019/08/tony-alessandra-on-bluntness/" title="Permanent Link: Bluntness By Dr Tony Alessandra" rel="bookmark">Click to read the full article...</a> <i></span></p>{"id":3431,"date":"2019-08-12T20:16:46","date_gmt":"2019-08-13T01:16:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/?p=3431"},"modified":"2019-08-12T20:16:46","modified_gmt":"2019-08-13T01:16:46","slug":"tony-alessandra-on-bluntness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/2019\/08\/tony-alessandra-on-bluntness\/","title":{"rendered":"Bluntness By Dr Tony Alessandra"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If you can&#8217;t understand this one, you&#8217;re pretty stupid&#8230; See what I mean? Most of us know better than to call other people names and insult their intelligence.<\/p>\n<p>Being assertive about our opinions and beliefs is fine, but at some point, assertiveness crosses over into bluntness. And that means you haven&#8217;t taken the other person&#8217;s feelings into account. <\/p>\n<p>Find out if bluntness is a problem for you. To do that simply ask five of the people closest to you at home and at work something like: &#8220;Do I come across as too blunt sometimes?&#8221; &#8220;Do I say things that hurt other people&#8217;s feelings without realizing it?&#8221; If you get back some &#8220;yes&#8221; answers, then you need to pay attention to the ways you communicate.  <span class=\"post-teaser-more\"><br \/><br \/>&nbsp;=>> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/2019\/08\/tony-alessandra-on-bluntness\/\" title=\"Permanent Link: Bluntness By Dr Tony Alessandra\" rel=\"bookmark\">Click to read the full article...<\/a> <i><\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":null,"protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":""},"categories":[64],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3431"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3431"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3431\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3431"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3431"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3431"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}