<p><img decoding="async" loading="lazy" class="alignleft" style="float: left;" src="http://www.getmotivation.com/images/speakers_images/tony-alessandra-07.jpg" alt="Tony Alessandra" width="120" height="150" />As someone once advised, &#8220;Grow antennae, not horns.&#8221; If you prejudge someone as shallow or crazy or ill-informed, you automatically cease paying attention to what they say.</p>
<p>So a basic rule of listening is to judge only after you&#8217;ve heard and evaluated what they say. Don&#8217;t jump to conclusions based on how they look, or what you&#8217;ve heard about them, or whether they&#8217;re nervous.</p>
<p>In fact, maybe a good exercise would be to go out of your way to listen to a difficult speaker. Maybe he talks with a thick accent. Or talks much more rapidly, or more slowly, than you, or uses a lot of big words. <span class="post-teaser-more"><br /><br />&nbsp;=>> <a href="https://www.getmotivation.com/motivationblog/2010/03/abstain-from-judging-by-dr-tony-alessandra-2/" title="Permanent Link: Abstain From Judging by Dr. Tony Alessandra" rel="bookmark">Click to read the full article...</a> <i></span></p>{"id":186,"date":"2010-03-06T14:59:55","date_gmt":"2010-03-06T19:59:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/?p=186"},"modified":"2020-12-03T21:10:12","modified_gmt":"2020-12-04T02:10:12","slug":"abstain-from-judging-by-dr-tony-alessandra-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/2010\/03\/abstain-from-judging-by-dr-tony-alessandra-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Abstain From Judging by Dr. Tony Alessandra"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft\" style=\"float: left;\" src=\"http:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/images\/speakers_images\/tony-alessandra-07.jpg\" alt=\"Tony Alessandra\" width=\"120\" height=\"150\" \/>As someone once advised, &#8220;Grow antennae, not horns.&#8221; If you prejudge someone as shallow or crazy or ill-informed, you automatically cease paying attention to what they say.<\/p>\n<p>So a basic rule of listening is to judge only after you&#8217;ve heard and evaluated what they say. Don&#8217;t jump to conclusions based on how they look, or what you&#8217;ve heard about them, or whether they&#8217;re nervous.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, maybe a good exercise would be to go out of your way to listen to a difficult speaker. Maybe he talks with a thick accent. Or talks much more rapidly, or more slowly, than you, or uses a lot of big words. <span class=\"post-teaser-more\"><br \/><br \/>&nbsp;=>> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/2010\/03\/abstain-from-judging-by-dr-tony-alessandra-2\/\" title=\"Permanent Link: Abstain From Judging by Dr. Tony Alessandra\" rel=\"bookmark\">Click to read the full article...<\/a> <i><\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":null,"protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/186"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=186"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/186\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=186"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=186"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.getmotivation.com\/motivationblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=186"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}