Whenever an event or an action does not go the way we expected it to go, we start whining and complaining about everything that is associated with it. If you look at yourself consciously, you would find that complaining comes to you quite naturally. Grumbling is the easiest thing you can do to overshadow your failure and if it becomes a habit, it will turn into a way of living. But in the process, you are falling in a vicious trap of negativity and ruining your life.
Complaining Only Brings Misery
You cannot find a single example where a person has moaned and complained about something and he has come out a winner from that situation. It does not even provide you the required mental peace after your failure when your action did not yield the expected result. It is true that you can try to justify your action by complaining in front of others to draw their sympathy and monetary respite from the reality. But sooner than later you realize the guilt inside you and your life becomes miserable again.
Complaining Does Not Let You Move On
The longer you complain about an issue, the deeper it gets in your mind. As it is a negative issue, it will only generate tons of negative thoughts. You will lose the will and the inspiration to move on to the next event or action and you will eternally get stuck into it. For example, you had a bad relationship experience and all day and night you are grumbling about your ex-partner. All you are doing is obstructing you from moving on and seeing the brighter side of life and things you have in your possession to be happy with.
Complaining Does Not Provide A Solution
When you focus on the negatives and ignore the positives, you are never going to find a solution to your problems and shortcomings. Whining and grumbling show that you are completely helpless and have no control over your thoughts. It completely consumes your ability to analyze the situation and identify your mistakes so that you can learn lessons from them. Therefore, if the same situation comes back again, you are probably going to make the same mistakes and end up complaining again.
Complaining Affects Your Health Tremendously
It is scientifically proved that complaining about an issue creates stress and depression in mind and gives rise to several nerves related problems. In a very short item, it brings about a complete breakdown in the mental state. You slowly lose your memory and reasoning power. Apart from these, indigestion and insomnia are inevitable. It negatively affects your behavior and you can end up taking out your frustration on the wrong people who actually love you in life.
What You Can Do Instead Of Complaining
When something is not going the way you imagined it, it means your external circumstances are not favorable. It is proper for you to keep your inward calm and composed. Only when your inside is stable, can your mind function properly and positively.
Understand Why Things Went Wrong
When the result of your action is dependent on external factors, it is quite natural that some of those factors will go in your favor and sometimes they will just act in their own way. Instead of whining about the factors that went wrong, try to analyze why they went wrong and how differently you could do the same work next time if the situation arises again.
Accept Whatever Comes Your Way
This is our over-expectation that ruins our mood entirely and we end up grumbling. If we just accept whatever that comes as an outcome of an action and prepare ourselves to accept the worst possible scenario, we can escape the trap of negativity. You should prepare a series of action that you can take to overcome the negative outcome easily and once the worst possible scenario becomes a reality, instead of being depressed and venting out your frustration, you should be focusing your energy on executing your backup plans.
Look At The Bigger Picture
It is our inability to look at the big picture of our life that limits our mood and mindset. In life, there is always a choice to choose from. You can complain and do nothing about the issue and make yourself miserable or you can choose to recover from your instantaneous upset mood and look at the positive sides. You can learn from your failure and look at the bigger picture in life where nothing is permanent.
Complaining about everything has become a mental disease. It gets you nowhere and it is simply a waste of time weakening your health and worsening mental state. It is in your hand to rise above pettiness, make a better choice and live a better life no matter what.
Harrish Sairaman is one of the top Corporate Trainers in India. He is one of the co-founders of The Next Dimension, a company which has been established with the intent of empowering individuals. Harrish believes in a high energy, insightful learning experience driven by impactful activities to bring in a transformational shift amongst his participants. Having conducted over 900+ workshops, Harrish has touched lives of over 2,00,000 participants.