Abstain From Judging by Dr. Tony Alessandra

Tony AlessandraAs someone once advised, “Grow antennae, not horns.” If you prejudge someone as shallow or crazy or ill-informed, you automatically cease paying attention to what they say.

So a basic rule of listening is to judge only after you’ve heard and evaluated what they say. Don’t jump to conclusions based on how they look, or what you’ve heard about them, or whether they’re nervous.

In fact, maybe a good exercise would be to go out of your way to listen to a difficult speaker. Maybe he talks with a thick accent. Or talks much more rapidly, or more slowly, than you, or uses a lot of big words.

Whatever difficulty this speaker poses, seize it as an opportunity not to prejudge but to practice your listening skills. Given some time, you’ll become more comfortable and effective in listening to diverse styles.

— Tony Alessandra
Dr. Tony Alessandra has authored numerous books, recorded over 50 audio and video programs, and delivered well over 2,000 keynote speeches since 1976. If you would like more information about Dr. Alessandra’s books, audio tape-sets and video programs, or about Dr. Alessandra as a keynote speaker, visit his website at www.Alessandra.com.

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