When you go from being a self-centered, lazy, depressed person like I was for over 20 years, to someone who lives 180 degrees in the opposite direction, you find it happens by changing your definition of what life means.
We are all given different gifts and have different interests. If you are trying to start a business, for example, and you’re doing it only because you want to make a lot of money, you’ll probably fail. If you answer a biz-op ad in a magazine and the one you choose is mostly because of a low investment, you’ll probably fail again.
The only way you’ll ever feel great inside your own skin and become successful at anything, especially in business, is if you decide to become of service to others. Period.
Watch others closely. You’ll find, as I have, that one of the biggest problems we humans have with one another is the lack of a desire to help out, to give a hand to someone who
needs it. People who never jump in to help clean up or offer their help are universally despised.
Recently, I saw a movie I hadn’t seen in years that is the epitome of what life’s all about. The movie is ‘Ground Hog Day.’ Bill Murray plays an egotistical, selfish weatherman who travels to Western Pennsylvania every February 2nd to see if “Punxsutawney Phil” will see his shadow or not.
He and his crew have to stay overnight due to a snowstorm. And in a seemingly cruel twist of fate, he wakes up the next day to find it’s February 2nd… again. This happens day after day after day. He’s in groundhog hell imprisoned to relive the same day forever.
After a while he kills himself… only to be awakened at the same time each morning by his alarm clock playing Sonny & Cher. He kills himself again. Same result.
Everyone else is living as if it’s Groundhog Day for the first time. He’s the only one reliving it. The same people greet him at the same moment in the same place. The only difference is how he reacts.
He gets to see how he changes the outcome of the day for himself and everyone else… over and over.
Soon, he changes his tune and starts helping each person where they have a challenge; saves a kid from a fall, performs a Heimlich, fixes a flat tire, etc. He finds that he retains his skills from the “previous” day. So he learns about everyone’s likes and dislikes, learns how to play piano, make ice sculptures and learns about the object of his affection.
Through trial and error, he works to make each “new day” a masterpiece. Each day, as it progresses, he learns that the way he viewed life was wrong… that he could have a great life if he just helped others.
People loved him… every day.
As the “days” went by, he learned about life. No lesson did he miss. All it took was awareness on his part.
Remember, at first it seemed like hell to him. Then as he grew in skill and in character, the woman he adored loved him back… even though she couldn’t stand him before.
The first time I saw this movie, I missed the moral. I was too busy being entertained. It is funny. But just like in “real” life, as you’re laughing and crying and living, there are lessons. If you don’t notice them, you’re doomed to never learn and will repeat the same mistakes… over and over.
Any problem you have has a solution. You just need to find it. But you must look for it. To begin, start taking an interest in other people instead of just yourself. Help out everywhere you can. You will be amazed.
As if by magic you’ll learn faster, your relationships will improve, your job will be more fun, money will probably cease to be a problem… in short everything will be better for you.
Tomorrow your clock will wake you at the same time as yesterday. Make that day and every day a masterpiece… And be patient. Live just today. Tomorrow will come… tomorrow. Learn what you must to prepare for tomorrow.
You’ll get what you want. But you must first become what you need to become in order to get it. Stop with the excuses.
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